The Best Questions to Ask to Buy Her the Perfect Diamond Ring

Here at Bailey’s, we know that engagement ring shopping can seem daunting, but it doesn’t have to be! The main thing we see our grooms stress about is buying something their future wife is really going to love. But after over seven decades in the business, we have gathered a few tips and tricks to ensure that you find the perfect ring for your partner! We’re here to pass our advice on to you about what questions you should ask to make sure that you get her the perfect engagement ring!

While the questions you will ask your jeweler are going to be important, the most important questions that you ask are going to be to your partner! It’s important to have open conversations with your significant other about what they have in mind, any absolute musts for their engagement ring, and a ballpark budget that makes both of you comfortable. 

Even though the budget topic might seem awkward, it’s important to go ahead and open up the conversation to ensure that you’re both on the same page. You don’t want her to imagine a 4-carat diamond when the budget you were sticking to is more suitable for a 1 to 2-carat diamond. 

All of these conversations with your significant other might seem unromantic or taboo, but you don’t need to talk specifics if you don’t want to! Just cover what feels right so that no one is disappointed on the big day. 

After you have talked logistics with your partner, it’s time for the fun part – shopping! Be sure to start off by letting your jeweler know which parts of the engagement ring seem to be the most important to your future wife. Whether it’s the shape of the diamond, the setting, or the metal color, go ahead and establish your top priorities for the engagement ring with your jeweler. 

Establishing the non-negotiables will give you and your jeweler a great starting point and let them know where you want to focus your budget. When it comes to the 4C’s, we typically say they’re a sliding scale – so if you go up in one C, you might have to come down in another to stay within your budget. 

Based on your non-negotiables, ask your jeweler where you can save and decide where you really want to spend. For example, if you’re set on an oval diamond between one and two carats, you might be able to save money on the color, especially if you’re setting the diamond in rose or yellow gold. 

No matter what your budget is or who you’re buying a ring from, one of the most important questions to ask is “Can I see the diamond?” Much like humans, diamonds are all special and completely unique. Even though two diamonds might have the exact same color, cut, clarity, and carat weight on paper, they could look COMPLETELY different to the naked eye. It’s important to go to a reputable jeweler who will let you see the diamonds before purchasing. That way, you can find one that really speaks to you.

Once you narrow down your selection, it’s important to ask your jeweler about how the diamond is certified. If you’re working with a reputable jeweler, they’ll be able to let you know about your diamond’s certification which will include information on where it came from, whether or not it was sustainably mined, if it’s conflict-free, and more. Diamond certifications are necessary when appraising and insuring the engagement ring so be sure that your jeweler is trustworthy and transparent with you. 

Once you have chosen your perfect ring and gotten the proper certifications, it’s time to think about the future! Ask your jeweler about the timeline – when are you going to be able to take your ring home? Are they wrapping it up for you right out of the case, does it need to be sized, or will it need to be fully custom made? You will want to be sure that the jeweler’s timeline fits with your proposal plans!

Once you have asked all of these questions, there’s only one question left to ask and it’s the most important one! Will you marry me?